Sportswriter Matt Crossman was not prepared for the surprising spectacle he encountered on his first visit to watch St. Louis’ professional soccer team, CITY SC, play at CITYPARK. Matt’s first sign it was going to be a different day was the shoes.


I marveled at how the team conceived the experience of attending a game as a uniquely St. Louis event. The food, for instance, wasn’t unique to the opener; every game will be like a food festival.Our hours-long feast started long before the game. We jumped in line at Balkan Treat Box, one of my favorite St. Louis restaurants. A concerned observer suggested Mike and I split the beef kebab. “Pace yourselves,” she cautioned. I took that as a personal challenge. You think I can’t eat a whole one? I’ll show you! But then the cashier handed it over, and it looked to be as long and thick as my arm. I ripped the kebab in two and gave half to Mike. I raised it to my mouth, dug my teeth into it and … Little did I know that an epiphany was soon to follow. Before I get into that, I have to tell you two stories: one about my years living in St. Louis, and another about that incredible day in downtown St. Louis celebrating food, soccer, and the very nature of St. Louis itself. When I moved to St. Louis, I was struck by how people talked to each other. Conversations had so many insider references that it seemed like everybody knew everything and everyone. I felt like the only spouse at a high school reunion who didn’t go to that school (at which, of course, everyone would ask me where I went to high school.) Locals used “we” more than anywhere I’ve ever been. We’ve got Forest Park and a free zoo. We’re the best fans in baseball. For years, I made fun of St. Louisans for being overbearingly self-referential, for their obsession with how the world sees them, and because their directions often included a line like, “turn left where the Kmart used to be.” Underneath my mocking was jealousy. They had a deep-rooted connection that I lacked. For the first 18 years of my life, I lived in the same house in Michigan. Over the next 13 years, I bounced from St. Louis to Charlotte and back to St. Louis. My first time here, I remained an outsider, an observer rather than a participant, a travel writer on permanent assignment. But now, with two teenage daughters, roots growing stronger by the day, and a bumper crop of deep friendships, I have found myself saying there are no circumstances under which I would move away. I have found a home in a way I had sought since moving out of my parents’ house when I left for college. I didn’t even realize all that was happening until I ate that kebab. As a St. Louisan, I already dislike the Sporting Kansas City soccer team, although I know literally nothing about them, couldn’t name a player, and as far as I know, they’ve done nothing to deserve the dislike. They are Kansas City, so therefore they are a rival. At the same time, a true St. Louisan should be stoked that KC is a host city for the 2026 FIFA World Cup; I’m all kinds of excited about that. St. Louis has long been a soccer town without a team, and now we—yeah, I said “we”—have one. I wanted to soak in that truly historic moment. Mike and I arrived downtown at noon, seven and a half hours before kickoff, so that we could get a tour of the stadium given by Matt Sebek, the team’s chief experience officer. An early sign that this day would awaken my sense of being at home was the fact that Mike and I separately had numerous mutual friends with Matt. St. Louisans crave validation (that’s something else I mocked them for) and, unconsciously, I framed questions to Matt so that he would show how the stadium validated how cool St. Louis is. For example, I asked what kind of experience he hoped to create with the stadium, and I referenced how St. Louis Cardinals fans have the section numbers of Busch Stadium memorized, which I have not heard of in any of the major cities I’ve lived in or visited or written about as a sportswriter for more than two decades.
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| SEE THE CITY | Remaining 2023 Home Matches |
| St. Louis CITY SC is off to a winning start in the first half of its inaugural season, and there’s still a chance to catch a match in 2023. For tickets, fan gear, and more info, visit StLCitySC.com. | July 15 vs. Inter Miami CF August 20 vs. Austin FC August 30 vs. FC Dallas September 20 vs. Los Angeles Football Club September 30 vs. Sporting Kansas City October 21 vs. Seattle Sounders CF = Club Fútbol, FC = Football Club, SC = Sporting or Soccer Club |



